Child is the reflection of his parents .It is the genetic material which transfer parent’s trait to their child .
This is a scientific definition. But now a days we see children are very much different from their parents. Parents face lots of anxiety now a days …. due to behaviour of their children . They often used to say that
(a) child is too moody (b) child is not doing well in studies (c) child is hyper in his behaviour …..
In other words we can say parents feel that child is not up to their expectations.
Child in itself is a complete human . He absorb all the things which he observe around him. What ever parents serve , knowingly or unknowingly , he or she is always influenced by those behaviour .
Relation between parents affect the relation of child with society .
Arguments among parents affect psychology of children . He become less creative , less responsible and more stubborn.
One case to share here – A couple along with their 15 year kid came to me regarding his selection of stream in class 11th . Very affluent family . Kid wants to know about future prospect of each stream , but father constantly saying – औ लड़के , no tension …चाहे कुछ मत कर मैं हूँ ना …बहुत पैसा है अपने पास !!!
I was surprised by seeing the way how the father was behaving .
I asked him ….आप कब तक हैं , आपका पैसा कब तक है …
My words strikes straight on his mind …he become speechless.
Parenting means to make your kid aware of future challenges , never make them handicap by saying that “why you fear when I am here” , instead make them capable of conquering every fear .
Take care of following points –
1. Love your child as much as you can , but also make them understand that world will not love them in same way as his parents.
2.Educate them in a proper way , because you are not living forever with them .
3. Never show overflow of money for them , money will always drag them back.
4. Never argue in front of them , it can badly hurt their psychology .
5.Never underestimate their imagination . If you use some low words against any one , they will also use them.
6.Never share your ego with them , make them humble and powerful .
7.Show them how to keep everyone together . Avoid separatism in front of them .